Take this quiz to reflect on your behaviors and mindset. Answer honestly to gain insights into whether you're more aligned with the "Nice Guy" or "Right Guy" archetype.
This quiz pairs up with the blog, The Nice Guy or the Right Guy?
1. How do you typically respond when someone asks you for a favor, but you're already feeling overwhelmed?
A. Say yes, even if it stresses you out (Nice Guy).
B. Politely explain that you can’t but offer an alternative if possible (Right Guy).
2. When faced with conflict, what’s your instinctive reaction?
A. Avoid it and hope it resolves itself (Nice Guy).
B. Address it directly and aim for constructive dialogue (Right Guy).
3. How often do you feel unappreciated for your efforts or kindness?
A. Frequently—it feels like people take advantage of me (Nice Guy).
B. Rarely—I express my boundaries and feel respected (Right Guy).
4. When you offer help or kindness, what’s your motivation?
A. I hope it will make others like me or return the favor later (Nice Guy).
B. I offer it because it feels right, with no strings attached (Right Guy).
5. Do you feel comfortable asserting your needs in relationships or at work?
A. No, I worry about being seen as selfish or causing conflict (Nice Guy).
B. Yes, I know my needs are valid and worth expressing (Right Guy).
6. When reflecting on your relationships, how would you describe them?
A. Surface-level—I often feel like people don’t truly know me (Nice Guy).
B. Deep and authentic—I feel seen and understood (Right Guy).
7. How do you define your sense of self-worth?
A. It depends on how others see me and whether they approve (Nice Guy).
B. It comes from within—I value myself regardless of external opinions (Right Guy).
8. How do you handle disagreements in relationships?
A. I tend to give in or avoid the topic to keep the peace (Nice Guy).
B. I engage in open discussions and seek mutual understanding (Right Guy).
9. Do you often suppress your opinions or desires to avoid rocking the boat?
A. Yes, I’d rather avoid the risk of upsetting anyone (Nice Guy).
B. No, I share my thoughts respectfully and constructively (Right Guy).
10. When someone praises you, how do you feel?
A. Relieved—it’s like a confirmation of my worth (Nice Guy).
B. Grateful—but my sense of worth doesn’t hinge on it (Right Guy).
Scoring Your Results
Count the number of "A" and "B" responses.
Mostly A’s: You might lean toward the Nice Guy archetype. This isn’t a flaw but an opportunity to reflect on where you might suppress your needs or authenticity. Consider taking steps to set boundaries, embrace conflict, and cultivate internal validation.
Mostly B’s: You align more with the Right Guy archetype! This indicates a healthy balance of self-respect, authenticity, and connection in your relationships and interactions.
Reflection Tip: Regardless of your score, change and growth are always possible. Embrace the areas where you can improve, and consider seeking support from a coach, mentor, or men’s group to navigate this journey.
Get Resourced
Would you like to explore this further? Reach out to learn more about how coaching can help you transition from the Nice Guy to the Right Guy.
Read the blog that goes with this quiz.
Read the companion blog, The Right Guy.
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