In last week’s blog, The Cost of Harboring Resentment, we explored the roots of resentment and outlined steps to overcome this debilitating emotion. Resentment not only hinders our ability to lead effectively in business but also prevents us from forming rich, meaningful relationships that bring energy and purpose to our lives.
Why We Call It the "Cancer Emotion"
Resentment can have a cancerous effect on relationships, especially with family and spouses, slowly eating away at trust and intimacy. It also infects friendships, often leading to abrupt breaks in communication. This corrosive emotion undermines the beauty of our lives, manifesting as seething anger, obstructionism, and self-protection mechanisms that block personal growth. Over time, these emotional barriers leave us feeling stuck, unable to move forward.
Many of the issues we face in the present may be rooted in unresolved resentment from the past. In coaching, we use The Legacy Method to address this complex, messy situation through a process called “unthreading”.
Unthreading from the Past
Over time, we accumulate emotional and energetic "threads" from past experiences and relationships. When left unaddressed, these threads tangle and weigh us down, keeping us stuck. Unthreading is a technique designed to help release these resentments and move forward, bringing a sense of lightness and freedom. Those who use this method with their coach often describe the experience in one word: relief.
Personally, my resentments made me feel heavy, closed-off, and judgmental—all without ever asking a single question to see if my feelings were valid. By using this unthreading process, I was able to break free from these emotional constraints. For me, resentment felt like carrying around a heavy car battery. I put it down long ago, and now I feel lighter, freer, and emotionally unburdened.
When Should You Unthread?
You may need to unthread emotional ties from the past when:
You feel stuck, are facing a crisis, or a part of your life isn’t working as you want.
You have a sense that something is holding you back, preventing you from moving forward.
How to Start
Unthreading is a powerful tool to help people overcome the resentments that hold them back. However, it’s not limited to addressing resentment—it’s a core element of our coaching philosophy that can be applied to any emotional block you’re experiencing.
Is there something in your life you’d like to move past? Schedule a confidential conversation with David to begin your journey toward freedom and emotional lightness.
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